A Sea Of Red

Seriously, just elope. Save the $$$.

Agreed, with one exception. If you can come up with a creative, fun, and fairly inexpensive way to get married, instead of the oppressively expensive and completely self centered typical American wedding, go for it. I went to a wedding two weeks ago at a Renaissance Hall with a live dinner show for the reception. It was great and the couple paid about 30% of what two other couples I know are spending to get married this summer.

i'm done with weddings...for dudes attending, we attempt to make the best of it but really its cumbersome and pretty much throws a monkey wrench in my saturday plans. But being in a wedding? there goes the entire weekend. ugh...i can't think of any other voluntary activity to do on a weekend that is worse. I have 1 more wedding to go to before my daughters are old enough....and it may never happen. otherwise i'm done until theirs. not even that delicious cake you have can sway me to spend countless hours at some reception. and when you do have to go and its like carrot cake or some crap...oh man lividity.

i've been asked to be in a handful over the past few years and have turned down all but 1. saying no to these invitation is like having a pallet of cinderblocks lifted off your back. its amazing really.

anyhoo...congrats on the 2nd attempt, may it go better than the first. i'm encouraging our children to elope. i'm willing to write them a fat check. i'm already trying to instill in them the worthlessness of weddings but i fear it will be thrown by the wayside eventually.

oh and if you get mad because my face is buried in my phone the entire time? screw off...dont' schedule your wedding during footballs season nitz.

Did I mention I got married in Vegas? Yep! Hits all the fun without any of the bad !

On the cake front, the couple who got married at the Renaissance Hall had gourmet cupcakes from Georgetown Cupcake.

I get to have the pleasure of attending a wedding tomorrow night down in Naples. Luckily it's not a traditional wedding so it shouldn't be unbearable. They aren't having a bridal party and they're getting married at a restaurant downtown. Should be decent. The guys are all playing golf tomorrow morning, so my entire day can't be too bad regardless.

until you are sharing a cart with the weird cousin who eats his own skin.

the things they are doing with cupcakes now is amazing....very much a plus.

My parents offered us money to elope... we should have taken it and run.

I talked to Alina about eloping...all I can say is that if we had eloped...well lets just say it would not have been a happy ending on my side of the family...

NotAJerry wrote:On the cake front, the couple who got married at the Renaissance Hall had gourmet cupcakes from Georgetown Cupcake.

"Gourmet cupcakes" is one of the most stupidly American things I have ever heard of.

TDDance234 wrote:My parents offered us money to elope... we should have taken it and run.

Yep i agree. Too many weddings are about everyone else, not the couple. As BJ said, OTHER people will be upset if a couple elopes. Take the money and use it on a down payment for a house, you know something that lasts.
My parents were not happy we went to Vegas to get married. I told them that we were the ones getting married, not them. We gave everyone notice so if they wanted to come they could and it worked out great.

The wedding is about the bride, not even the couple. And I'm okay with that.

True story: three months before our wedding, I had a heated heart-to-heart with my MIL, who herself had eloped and was making my wife's wedding what hers never was by spending far too much on numerous things my wife never wanted. As a dominant personality herself, my MIL reluctantly backed down.

The groom's top priority in wedding planning is to make sure the bride gets what she wants, within reason.

By the way, my in-laws and I now have an excellent relationship, and I'm closer than most to my MIL. My fellow in=laws who have married into the family: all intimidated by her.

I agree its about the Bride but you made my point. It was the MIL who 'took over' and wanted to make it what hers never was. Imagine the nightmare that would have ensued had your MIL not backed down. Yours is the exception that proves the rule

Purple Haize wrote:I agree its about the Bride but you made my point. It was the MIL who 'took over' and wanted to make it what hers never was. Imagine the nightmare that would have ensued had you not stepped up. Yours is the exception that proves the rule

Fixed it for you.

I see your point. You were stating how things often are; I was stating how things should be, and how my wife and I ensured they would be.

JK37 wrote:

Purple Haize wrote:I agree its about the Bride but you made my point. It was the MIL who 'took over' and wanted to make it what hers never was. Imagine the nightmare that would have ensued had you not stepped up. Yours is the exception that proves the rule

Fixed it for you.

I see your point. You were stating how things often are; I was stating how things should be, and how my wife and I ensured they would be.

Exactly. I'm right and you're less wrong!

Totally agree with making sure the bride gets what she wants. I think the biggest surprise has been just how many people have expectations of how our wedding will work for them. It's always expected for MILs to be that way, but the Flower Girl's mother shouldn't be playing hardball over the style of the FG dress.

I just got off the phone with a groomsman who thought it would be appropriate to invite his girlfriend to the bachelor party. A bachelor party that starts on a golf course. She doesn't golf.

JK37 wrote:The wedding is about the bride, not even the couple. And I'm okay with that.

True story: three months before our wedding, I had a heated heart-to-heart with my MIL, who herself had eloped and was making my wife's wedding what hers never was by spending far too much on numerous things my wife never wanted. As a dominant personality herself, my MIL reluctantly backed down.

The groom's top priority in wedding planning is to make sure the bride gets what she wants, within reason.

By the way, my in-laws and I now have an excellent relationship, and I'm closer than most to my MIL. My fellow in=laws who have married into the family: all intimidated by her.

I agree wholeheartedly. What I was blessed with was a wife who when we got down to brass tacks, actually was willing to marry what she wanted in a wedding with the things that make me unique. What was also nice is she gave me free reign over the music because of my side gig as a wedding DJ. We ended up with a beautiful wedding that had people laughing from the first note of my entrance to our sendoff

After reading this and hearing the stuff from people going through the wedding planning process at work all I can say is thank God marriage is no where on the horizon for me.

its really not all that bad if you are the dude. you just kinda show up. golf in the morning is what you strive for although it may not happen. the old adage, show your ineptness early on and you won't have to do much else really rings true.

lynchburgwildcats wrote:After reading this and hearing the stuff from people going through the wedding planning process at work all I can say is thank God marriage is no where on the horizon for me.

It's all worth it in the end. Just find the right one.

lynchburgwildcats wrote:After reading this and hearing the stuff from people going through the wedding planning process at work all I can say is thank God marriage is no where on the horizon for me.

Women of Virginia agree

LUconn wrote:

lynchburgwildcats wrote:After reading this and hearing the stuff from people going through the wedding planning process at work all I can say is thank God marriage is no where on the horizon for me.

Women of the planet Earth agree

FIFY

LUconn wrote:

lynchburgwildcats wrote:After reading this and hearing the stuff from people going through the wedding planning process at work all I can say is thank God marriage is no where on the horizon for me.

Women of Virginia agree

Maybe he doesn't like women. Just saying.

Schfourteenteen wrote: June 8th will either be marked as the day I got married or the day New Jersey families met real Southern Baptists.

oh we're gonna need pictures. I imagine the Tony Soprano vs Shelby Stanga

Schfourteenteen wrote: I just got off the phone with a groomsman who thought it would be appropriate to invite his girlfriend to the bachelor party. A bachelor party that starts on a golf course. She doesn't golf.

can she dance? it may work out

PA......

That was AWE SOME!