FlamesHighontheTide wrote: ↑October 5th, 2020, 9:54 am
Somebody earlier said that Voddie is teaching his kids to live in terror of their father and that is the furthest thing from the truth. Nor would he condone that in any family. Does he strictly point to the father being the spiritual leader in the home, you bet he does. Not to mention he is 100% spot on when it comes to that. The Biblical model of family has been under attack for years and Voddie saw this and perceived it gettin worse and he was right.
The empowerment of women the way culture defines it is unbiblical and will do nothing but hurt the Biblical family model even more.
As much as I would love to see Dr. Baucham as or president and as needed as it is from a strictly Biblical point of view, I do not think he would ever come here simply because of how he talks about living in Zambia and raising up pastors.
I’m just going off of the quotes posted here, so grain of salt, but a couple are very concerning.
I do not believe Dr. Baucham’s intent is to rule through fear. I do believe that fear and resentment are the consequences of the actions he endorses in these quotes and the adversarial perspective he takes on parenting. A child who is punished, especially physically, for being shy (experiencing anxiety) is only going to have increased anxiety and fear the next time she’s in a similar situation. A child who is spanked 5 times a day is going to be terrified of his father. These are kids who end up having behavioral problems and wind up in my office- they learn to lie, they stop telling things to Dad because they know what’s coming. They have a breakdown any time they make a mistake because the consequences are going to be dire. Or they go the other way and do whatever they want because they know the consequences are coming either way.
These are kids who grow up and estranged themselves from their parents. If you want an open, loving relationship with your kids, they need to receive grace and mercy from you as well as consequences. They need to trust that they can confide in you without the threat of physical pain. I’m not completely against physical discipline, but, according to these quotes, Dr. Baucham sees it as the primary form of discipline, not a tool in a bigger toolbox for parents.